The Biological Hand Grenade Ladder is the best illustration I have seen that describes the natural progression in a guy/girl relationship. God has designed humans to have an attraction towards the opposite sex. The key is to keep these desires in check and obey God’s Word. This is much easier said then done. We are saturated in our culture with sex, movies and music that is sending the message that it is ok to enjoy someone of the opposite sex and to experiment as long as you protect yourself. This is contrary to God’s Will for humanity. God created sex for the purpose of reproducing and for our enjoyment. Sex in the right context of marriage is a wonderful experience, however outside of the right context it can produce feelings of shame, guilt, embarrassment and insecurity.
I want to list for you the stages that occur in a physical relationship. Picture each of these stages as a step up this ladder.
- Holding hands
- Arm Around
- Light Kissing
- Lingering Kissing
- Heavy Kissing
- Light Touching
- Heavy Touching
- Intercourse
Tips to remember:
1. Once you go up the ladder it is difficult to take steps down.
2. If you begin to date someone and they have gone to a step higher than you have, the person who has experienced more will want you to jump to the step they are on at that time. This is one of the huge obstacles that exists in a new relationship.
3. Once you begin to take steps up the ladder, The Law of Diminishing returns comes into play. Watch this video I did to illustrate the point.
Song of Solomon 8:4 Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.
Simply put what Solomon is saying is do not begin to awaken love or take steps onto the ladder until you are in a place in life where you can fulfill your natural desires that place is marriage. God’s perfect will for each of us is One Man, One Woman for a lifetime! God is not trying to rain on your parade, He is trying to protect you and reveal to you His plan. God created sex and wants you to experience it in the right CONTEXT—-Marriage! What happens is we tend to base our security in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex instead of God’s love for us. No relationship can substitute God’s perfect love for you.
My advice to you be careful when you begin to take steps up the Biological Hand Grenade Ladder. Once you take steps up it is difficult to come back down.
Here are some passages for you to Memorize.
For further Reading: Check out:
The Dating Dilemma by Bob Stone
